Not all abuse is physical
Domestic abuse in relationships doesn't always involve physical violence. It can be financial or emotional abuse and can happen to anyone. Sustained controlling behaviour such as regularly intimidating, bullying, criticising or threatening someone in an intimate or familial relationship, are all forms of what is called 'coercive control'. This is a form of domestic abuse and is a criminal offence.
What is coercive control?
Typically, one person in a relationship, whether it be a current or ex-partner, spouse or family member, will control the other over a period of time and in ways that go largely unnoticed by friends and family. As well as the bullying and criticism, common traits of coercive control can include checking the other's phone, making them dress in or look a certain way, wanting to know where they are and who they are seeing, restricting their money or cutting them off from friends and family.
Do you recognise any behaviours you experience in our videos Isolation, Monitoring and Financial control?
Help and support is available
Surrey's domestic abuse outreach services provide support to any victim of domestic abuse regardless of age, gender, sexuality or race. These community-based services offer emotional and practical support, as well as information, advice and safety planning. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, support is available. Call the Surrey Domestic Abuse Helpline provided by Your Sanctuary on 01483 776822 or visit surreyagainstda.info. Always dial 999 in an emergency.